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Holiday Balance: Giving the Gifts Worth Giving

This morning I awoke to the most beautiful Sunrise; pinks, oranges, turquoise and yellow. The sun was not visible yet, but the scattered clouds were changing colors as the sun slowly rose over the horizon. A crescent moon sat boldly in the sky , a reminder of the night that just passed. 

The Grand Canyon.... a flaming red sun coming out of nowhere making the land appear to be on fire as it reflected on the desert floor...a sunrise, not too long ago over the Colorado River...beautiful, majestic, the dawning of a new day. These are my memories, my gift to myself.

Assured Photography Grand Canyon

 

This morning's sunrise brought these memories back, filling my heart with beauty and peace.  I sat on the front steps just feeling the morning, taking in every sight and sound, storing it, and marveling at the beauty.  The birds were chirping, and then a Rooster made a few lonely crows...the world was awakening.

 

Ten years ago I was House Hunting, and the Agent had shown me probably 50 homes.... but nothing felt right.  There appeared to be just that one thing that I didn't like, that one thing, in each house that prevented a sale.  Of course I had criteria, my "wish list".... fireplace, large rooms, you know the usual things; but I couldn't find it.

 

The day before I was leaving town, disappointed and tired of looking, the phone rang; it was the Agent. Another house had just come on the Market and did I want to see it?  Well, what did I have to lose but a little time, so we made an appointment for that morning. 

We pulled up to the house, and the Agent unlocked the door. Within 5 minutes I knew this was it.....everything felt right.  I could see the mountains out of every window, and the large back yard was perfect. No, there wasn't a fireplace, instead there were flowers and trees.  I could hear the birds, and see the beauty of life.  This was my house, I could feel it. Oh the rooms were small, the whole house was small, and  nothing in it fit my "wish list." But I bought the house. I loved the yards, and the mountains. I loved the feeling of life, the majesty and beauty of the mountains, Sunrises to the East, and Sunsets to the West.Enjoying Life's Treasures This would be Home.

 

I would have to say I am very blessed right now.  No, I don't have enough Escrows to cover our expenses, and no I don't have money to buy Holiday Gifts. But that's not what's important to me.  What's more important are the sunrises, and the sunsets, and the beauty of choices life gives us. 

What's important is enjoying life....I will drive hours to a clients home and marvel at a blue sky, cloud formations, and just about everything around me. I am anticipating my drive to our office on the River tomorrow morning with pleasure.  The scenery calms me, and gives me uninterrupted time to think, to put everything into perspective. 

Nature brings balance to me.  Just sitting outside and watching the day awaken reminds me that no matter what happens, no matter how much money I may or may not have, that tomorrow the sun will rise again for all of us, rich and poor alike.

 

 

 Santas Key 

Optimism is more than a word, it is a feeling, a belief that all will be right in the world.  Negative attitudes are self-defeating, but an optimistic one brightens the day.  It is like a sunrise of the soul, and everyone can feel it around you. 

 Tomorrow, or sometime during this Holiday Season, I might just help someone find that new house;  the one that will come on the market.....The house that feels right for them. The House that will become their Home for the Holidays.

 

 

 

The Holidays are for Sharing, Caring, Family and Friends. It is a time for Love, and  It is a Time for Giving. What better to give than a Positive Attitude, and a Love for Life and all the Beauty in it. 

 

 These are the true gifts, the Gifts Worth Giving..... and all of us can give them no matter what our circumstances are..........

 

 

By: Kathy McGraw- CELLing Realty

Comments

A positive attitude makes all the difference.  I see people who have so much and they do not appreciate it.  I am fortunate to live in Hawaii, that makes every day so much brighter.
Posted by Randy L. Prothero - Hawaii REALTOR® (808) 384-5645 (Century 21 Liberty Homes ) over 4 years ago
Randy- thank you....yes, some people just don't value what they have.  and I would agree that living in Hawaii would make every day brighter-now that is truly a Beutiful place.
Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago

Kathy, I can only imagine the feeling you had the first morning that you woke up to the beauty around you in your new home.  That itself is the gift. 

This holiday season when the outlook is bleak for many families I hope they feel the beauty in the spirit of the  season and give gifts from their heart. 

What a lovely inspirational post to read this morning Kathy, thank you.

Posted by Kris Wales - Macomb County MI real estate blog & homes for sale search site (Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center) over 4 years ago

Hi Kathy - this post is so beautifully written, I feel like I'm right there with you enjoying those views, the sunrises, the yard and more.  You are so right about how important some things are that so many others take for granted. 

I love, really love, being at home in the mornings when the sun comes up and shines through the woods in my backyard.  I love seeing and hearing the birds wake up and come to eat at the feeders I keep full for them.  I love the late afternoons and the way the sun hits the front of my house, and shines through the trees in the front yard.  When I see these things, it gives me some semblance of peace within me, helping me to know all will be right.

WONDERFUL post!
Ann

Posted by Portsmouth NH Homes Condos - Ann Cummings New Hampshire REALTOR® (RE/MAX Coast to Coast - Portsmouth New Hampshire) over 4 years ago
Good Morning Kathy,
What a wonderful way to start my morning!  You found your "gift" and it is not something to be wrapped and put under a tree.  The best gifts in life are not "wrappable" (my new word for the day)  :0)  A beautiful post.  Thank you.
Posted by Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist (Kingsbridge Realty, Inc) over 4 years ago
Kathy, wonderful attitude. It will be interesting to see how the consumers spend this Christmas, won't it ? The best gifts are those from the heart, or homemade. I made most of my gifts the first few years I was married.
Posted by Missy Caulk-Ann Arbor-Realtor® Ann Arbor Real Estate (Keller Williams-Ann Arbor) over 4 years ago
Kathy, thanks for posting you entry into the contest.  We're hoping for lots of entries and I'm sure that the judging will be no easy task.  Since I'm a judge on this one, I'll reserve my detailed comments on your post until after the results are announced.
Posted by Brian Block -- Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate (RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President) over 4 years ago
Kathy, It's a beautiful post with so much wisdom.  I am so glad that Realtor decided to show you that home, others might have looked at the criteria and said that's not what you were looking for and wouldn't have bothered.  I had looked at many homes when buying and a house came on the market that did not at ALL fit what I wanted.  But my Agent already knew me and thought I would love this home.  I fell in love when I walked in and put an offer on it that day.  Had she not had the foresight to think of me and the willingness to show me the home, I would never had found it.  I am so glad you have your beautiful dream home and are fortunate to be able to connect with Nature so well there.  And have no doubt that you'll help many others find their dream homes.
Posted by Laura Cerrano and Carole Provenzale Owner, Feng Shui Long Island & New York (Feng Shui Long Island & New York City/Feng Shui Manhattan ) over 4 years ago
You are, again, right on target, Kathy. Hang on to those values!
Posted by Ann Heitland, Flagstaff Real Estate ~ Associate Broker, CRS, GRI, CDPE (RE/MAX Peak Properties) over 4 years ago
Maybe it's just because it's Monday...I don't know...but I had to go get a tissue after this one, Kathy.  You touched something inside and the ability to touch other people's hearts is truly a gift for you!
Posted by Lisa Heindel, New Orleans Real Estate Broker (Crescent City Living LLC) over 4 years ago
Kathy, your words make me feel the beauty and peace as you describe the beauty that surrounds you.  Beautiful post!
Posted by Lake Norman Real Estate ~ Diane Aurit (LKN Realty, LLC) over 4 years ago

I'm not a judge so I can comment :) and this was beautifully written and with writing this you not only whacked me with a bunch of positivity...you just may have inspired many to keep a positive attitude as well.  Good luck!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, RA, CRS, HAWAII Real Estate & Relocations (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 4 years ago

Kris-" Beauty from the Heart"  yes, and that one is the most expensive, the most valuable, and yet the least monetary outlay of all.  Everyone can give it.......

Ann C.-reading about your home, I know you know the feelings....the sun shining, birds chirping, yes.....peaceful, and as you say, a sign all will be right.....  Thank you.

Cynthia- I love your new word "wrappable"......no these gifts aren't "wrappable" unless we wrap them into our hearts, our souls........but don't think there's a ribbon that large :) :)  Thank you...... 

Missy- How right you are....and while in the Peace Corps, and even now, I make many of my "gifts" using nature as the theme......gourds, wreaths, and photography.....

Brian- OK, thanks :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago

Carole-Thank you.....I too am glad for that "one more" attitude.....and yes, I am sure I will help someone find their dream home too.....we really do need to keep in mind that many of those lists are like kids during the Holidays......remember how we used to sit with the Sears Catalogue.....thumbing through page after page of toys, writiing our lists, only th change it the next day :) :)

Ann H.-  Oh, my values are so deeply ingrained I know they will always be there :) :)

Lisa- thanks for that....sometimes it's hard to put into words something that is so powerful for us, and it is a good feeling that you got the message I was trying to say.

Diane- Thank you very much :) (see above)

Sally- I'm glad you're not a judge either, and this isn't really for a contest anyway, it is "just the way it is"  thanks for the contest or I wouldn't have put it into words :) :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago
Kathy, you have a gift with words!
Posted by Rey Gallegos FHA, VA, Home Loans Las Vegas, NV (W.J. Bradley Mortgage Capital LLC (NV License # 504)) over 4 years ago
Kathy,  That is a great post!  Good for you for still being able to see past today's minor tragedies and still have the ability to enjoy what has been given to us.  Somedays it's easier, somedays it harder but you have the right perspective! :)
Posted by Shannon Lefevre, PA (John R. Wood REALTORS Inc.) over 4 years ago
Kathy...Your words are perfect..I can just imagine the views and I can feel your attitude! What A Wonderful Post!
Posted by Monika McGillicuddy Southern NH & the Seacoast Area (Prudential Verani Realty/Hampstead) over 4 years ago
Kathy -you are a remarkable woman, I hope lots of people tell you that. Beautiful word, beautiful photo. The clients who would  buy their home with you as their agent will know how lucky they are in very short order.
Posted by Faina Sechzer - Princeton, Montgomery, Hopewell, NJ Real Estate Expert (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty) over 4 years ago
What a wonderful post.   You are so right- everyone has valuable gifts to give, regardless of their financial circumstances, because those gifts have nothing to do with money!  I love the holidays, not because of material gifts, but because of time spent with family and friends!
Posted by Ginger Wilcox (Trulia) over 4 years ago

Sometimes it is just the most simple of things! I just wrote a contract today because the sun was shining in the living room window and she just sat there and enjoyed that, she didn't look at the bedrooms before she said. This is it, let's write an offer!

Todd

Posted by Todd Clark (Broker) (503)524-9494 (Beaverton, Oregon Real Estate Expert) (Knipe Realty) over 4 years ago
What a wonderful post and so visually appealing.   You always do a great job and have a wonderful way with words.    Very inspiring.... thanks so much for sharing... great way to end my night.  Have a good one!
Posted by Desiree Daniels (RE/MAX Tri County) over 4 years ago

Rey- thanks ..:)

Shannon-  Yes, some days are easier, and some days we have to reach down for those stored memories, and those stored feelings.  nature really does have such a profound effect on me.

Monika- thank you very much......

Faina-Remarkable, me LOL...I just never valued stuff as much as I value people and life itself.  Thank you for your kind thoughts ;)

 

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago

Ginger-time spent with family is one of the biggest treasures of all.  I love spending time with my grandkids , all kids really, becuase they are so innocent, and they still think Granma Kathy is fun :) :)  We hike, fish, make crafts, and take pictures.....the true gifts for sure, the lasting ones.

Todd- I think I would like your client......and indeed it can just be that simple :) :)

Desiree- thank you....and really thank you for saying that about the pictures.....I love capturing the moment on film.  This was the first Post that I learned how to do the frames and shadows.....:) :) 

 

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago

Kathy,  This is one of the most beautiful and inspirational posts I've read in a long time on Active Rain. Everything you've written is how I also feel about nature, attitude, and perspective.

I loved your story about how you found the right home and why it was right....I had a similar experience one time; I bought a farm based on the view of the sunset from one of the upstairs bedrooms of the old farmhouse. 

Wonderful writing and the best kind...written from the heart.

((-:

Jo 

Posted by Jo-Anne Smith- Oakville, Burlington and Mississauga Region Real Estate, Ont (Brekland Realty Group) over 4 years ago

Mornings are my favorite time Kathy and you have given me hope that I will find the right home for me and my husband also. You made me miss the sounds of nature as well as the beauty.  We both love nature also and the home we live in now just does not offer that, so we are looking ourselves. We have two girls in college so we scaled down on a home, but we made a mistake on location. THank you for the beautiful story because it made me feel like I was right there with you.

Posted by Vickie Barrington - Carteret County Real Estate (Bluewater Real Estate) over 4 years ago

Jo-Anne- Nature is inspiration in it's purest form......I know you believe this as I have seen it in your writings :)

Vickie- Oh, I am so glad to hear that.....keep looking, you just never know where that "just right" home will be...I hope you find it before the Holidays so you can also enjoy the blessings during this season :) :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 4 years ago
Kathy - If this isn't a featured post, it should be. You strike so many beautiful chords here. Outstanding.
Posted by Tom Plant (WINEormous.com) about 4 years ago
Nice photos..was that of the Grand Canyon?
Posted by Neal Bloom-Realtor ®CRS-Weston FL Real Estate (Keller Williams Properties, Weston FL) about 4 years ago

Tom- thank you very much for your comment....:) :) 

Neal-Yes, the first picture is of the Grand Canyon...I had watched the Red Sunrise, and saw this view later...so took the picture :)  My emotions at the time were like standing on top of the world.....and this picture fit the feeling of that moment.

Look very closely and you can see the Colorado River....on the Print version you can see it better, but web photos lose a lot :) :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago

Sister Kate, as I now call you all the time in my prayers,  When you write you speak to my very heart.  It is truly the thought and the meaning behind a gift that counts.  It is too easy to throw money at a situation and we can always tell when someone thought about us in their choices. 

There is nothing like experiencing Love and Joy through the eyes of someone you love.   One of my best gifts from a friend was a coupon book that she made on her computer.  It had coupons for all kinds of stuff.  Little things that meant alot to me.  She even gave me one to "borrow" her kids for the weekend.  That was a great weekend, I pity those who don't take time to see life through their children's eyes.

I enjoy looking at life through your posts.  You always put me in the car next to you, or hiding in the closet when you write.  OK scoot over so I can watch the sunset with you later.  Ain't life grand?  

Posted by Sharon (Toni) Brown - South Ozone Park - New York City Real Estate (Exit Realty United) about 4 years ago
Kathy - Thanks for the positive message. I try to stay upbeat too, but it can be difficult with people grumbling around the office. When things are down I like to get out and take in some fresh air too.
Posted by Ryan Martin - Bellingham Commercial RE Broker (Windermere Real Estate / Whatcom Inc.) about 4 years ago

Toni- I love it when you come visit....you are all over the US, and never sure which State you're in...so when you come here it is that special  connection for me :) 

You talked about a coupon book.....my kids did that for me, and I loved it.. Toni my friend, thank you for the words, and any day......just close your eyes and visualize those Sunsets. When I left our River Office the other day, the sky was beautiful....and knowing how fast the sky turns, I crossed the bridge, drove down a side street and pulled over.  You would not believe the picture I got......all the colors in the sky were reflected in the aqueduct........natures Photo Shop we can say :) :)  OK friend, have to leave the sunset behind now....have a listing to get up, and pictures to fix.  you have a great day.

Ryan- I understand perfectly.....and sometimes we have to also watch our own self-talk to make sure it stays positive......Fresh Air can fix a weary spirit pretty much any day......if we just let it surround us, and clear our minds ( easier said than done) :) :)

 

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago

Kathy--you are truly a gifted writer.  As far as your comprimises to buy your current home....quoting from Dances with Wolves, "Good Trade!"

Thanks for making my day!

Posted by Mary Ann Grafft (Keller Williams Realty) about 4 years ago
Hello Friend - It is so cool to witness people get better and better at their craft. Seems someone has be cultivating an attitude of gratitude! :>)
Posted by Bobby Carroll - Real Estate Marketing (Dakno Marketing) about 4 years ago

Mary Ann- thank you and I agree,  it was a "Good Trade" :) :)

Hi Bobby-  Yes, I do have an Attitude of Gratitude :) :)  It sure makes the world a nicer place. Thanks  so much...loved your Post where you said this......You're going on vacation soon....enjoy :) :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago
Kathy, I love that the agent kept listening to you to find the right place. Great post on the "important" gifts in life. Described with lots of feeling.
Posted by Gary Woltal - Assoc. Broker REALTOR® SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) about 4 years ago

Gary- I too loved that the Agent took the time....I was a first time buyer (not in real Estate) and didn't know anything about the process.......she worked a lot for me, and I use my experience with her as a foundation of who I am today.....

Thank you for your comments :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago
Hi Kathy,
Just dropping by to say "Hi" and read all the comments you have gotten here.  I have read this post 4 times now and each time it just sinks deeper and deeper into my soul.  Thank you.
Posted by Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist (Kingsbridge Realty, Inc) about 4 years ago

Great post Cathy

Do you believe in the laws of attraction and vibration and thanking God everyday that you are happy and grateful for your own personal goals?

Whenever I feel like I am getting in a negative frame of mind or around one, I really focus on the positive. I also affirm my goals everyday to myself and carry them around with me. Many of my goals are for my family.

Anne

Posted by Tucson Real Estate Experts Anne and Eddie McKechnie (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) about 4 years ago
Kathy-What a beautiful post.  I so enjoyed this that I felt as though all my worries were taken away for that moment.  Thank you so much.  You truly showed every bit of your heart in this post.  Thank you for reaching out to all of us and giving that part of you that we all are very blessed by.  
Posted by Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~ (Agent Referral) about 4 years ago

Cynthia-  I think I have read it a few times myself......:)  Thank you for coming back.....

Anne & Eddie-I learned a long time ago not to label anything.....I just live what is in my own heart, mind, and spirit.....but I have heard of that book, or philosophy.  I liked what you say about affirming to yourself, and concentrating on the Positives.....it is easy to see the negatives, they surround us every day, but when we look for the Positives, we can indeed find them.

Julie- thank you very much...I truly believe we are all blessed if we just take the time to appreciate what life has given us.

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago
Kathy, this is a beautifully written post...just simply beautiful. Thank you.
Posted by Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate about 4 years ago
Lola- Thank you,  I appreciate it :)
Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago

Hi Kathy,

I read your post right after you wrote it and I meant to come back and leave you a comment. Well, As I was going down through the posts, I recognised yours and sure enough I never made it back. So I re-read it and found it even more insightful about who are you then the first time I read it.

What I hope will be important to you is that you know, I already know. I know because we have have become friends and opened our hearts up to each other.

How I wish I could wave my magic wand and make this holiday your best ever. Perhaps I just did! For life and love , family and friends the best of the most gracious things that come into our lives is  because someone wanted to. I do and I did!

You are a very special being and one I am proud and honored to call "Friend"

Posted by San Diego Real Estate Voice authored by William Johnson GRI CRS e-Pro CDPE (RE/MAX Associates) about 4 years ago
William-"Friends'  that is one of the best gifts in the world...to have and to be one.....thanks you.  I absolutely loved what you wrote above......it's special like you.......thanks for the Magic Wand, it must have worked because some very impossible things happened yesterday making my upcoming Holidays just that much brighter :)
Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago

Good morning, Kathy - Thanks for entering the contest.  I enjoyed reading your entry and love your photos!

Posted by Margaret Woda, Maryland Real Estate & Military Relocation Services (Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc., Crofton, MD) about 4 years ago
Margaret- thanks :)
Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 4 years ago

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